Woman Texts Her Dead Father’s Number for Four Years And Gets Response


Averi Carlson, Contributor

A twenty-three-year-old woman in Arkansas, Chastity Patterson, lost her father four years ago in 2015. Even though he had died, she continued to text his number and keep him updated about her life. Patterson said she did this because she believed that it somehow would reach him, wherever he was. She continued to text him every day for four years, telling him the highs and lows of her life as if he was actually there. The day before the anniversary of her father’s death, she sent her normal daily text. The response that came back left her stunned.

“Hey Dad, it’s ME,” Patterson texted. “Tomorrow is going to be a tough day again! It’s been 4 years since I lost you and not a day goes by that I don’t miss you.” She continued on to recap her year even though she had already told him these things before. She told him about how she had overcome cancer and hadn’t gotten sick in over a year. She also told him about how she had gone to college and graduated with honors. Then she said that she had gotten her heart broken for the first time and wished he had been there to help her. Patterson recounted all the happy memories of the past year and how she wished he had been there with her.  

Almost instantly a text replied to what she had said. The response was from a man named Brad, who had lost his daughter in a car accident a year before Patterson’s father died. “Hi sweetheart,” The message read, “I am not your father, but I have been getting all your messages for the past 4 years,”  

He went on to say that he had been going through a hard time after the death of his daughter and her texts had saved his life. He told Patterson that every time she texted him, it was a gift from God. He also said that he was proud of her and that her father would be proud of her too. He said that he wished his daughter was able to grow up to be like her. Brad told her that he had never texted back because he didn’t want to break her heart, and eventually did because he felt it was the right thing.  

When Patterson read this she said it was like a weight lifting off her chest and she was able to let her father go to rest. She was so moved by this response that she posted it to Facebook. Within hours there were 110,000 reactions and 299,000 shares. Many told her they had lost their father’s too, and that her story had helped them get over it. One woman commented, “I too lost my father suddenly 4 years next February. It’s hard and leaves a hole in your heart and soul when they are gone. That was my sign that everything is okay and I can let him rest. Your story is amazing.”  

Later she said that her father wasn’t her biological father. Patterson lived in a small town growing up and Jason Ligons, her father figure, was always there for her. The town was filled with many families whose parents had two or three jobs to make ends meet. Ligons helped many of the families in her area, taking them out to eat, to sports events, and to birthday parties. When Patterson entered the sixth grade, Ligons became her ideal father figure. He even starting introducing her as his daughter to people. Though they weren’t related by blood, Patterson admits that Ligons acted more like her father than her real one. Ligons never missed a sports game, dance, and would talk to her when she needed help.  

Patterson posted later that same week that Brad helped her more than she helped him. In her post, she thanked Brad for helping her have hope and getting over the death of her father.